I had him as my professor for Creative Writing Fiction at this time last year. I went through my old writing folder earlier and came across a story I submitted to our class for review on 9/12/07. It's overwhelming to think that it was the beginning of his last year of life.
He wore his bandana to class daily and was often wearing a tie-dyed Lord of the Rings shirt. It suited his awkward genius in a perfect way.
It was a class of 10 and we all became close to him and to each other. In May, when I needed a recommendation letter, he wrote me one in two days, completely forgiving my inability to give him a time frame.
When I sent him a reminder letter:
Hey Dave,
You told me to email you to remind you to write that letter. Here it is!
That didn't seem like sufficient content for an email though, so I thought about attaching a picture of a puppy, but then I didn't.
Kelly
His response:
K: The letter's done and in the weird plastic box outside my door. Go pick it up ASAP -- and don't read it; just trust that it's supportive. /dw/
INCLUDED A PICTURE OF A PUPPY!
I'll always remember Dave telling us on the first day of class that it will take him time to learn our names, but that once he has, he will remember who we are for the rest of his life. Longer than we remember him.
Dave, I can't imagine ever forgetting who you were. Likewise, I know that if you could read this post, you would laugh at my terrible grammar and poor use of punctuation.
His personal email began ocapmycap, a tribute to the poem by Walt Whitman.
O Captain My Captain
a poem by Walt Whitman
O Captain my Captain! our fearful trip is done,
The ship has weathered every rack, the prize we sought is won,
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring;
But O heart! heart! heart!
O the bleeding drops of red,
Where on the deck my Captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.
O Captain! my Captain! rise up and hear the bells;
Rise up--for you the flag is flung for you the bugle trills,
For you bouquets and ribboned wreaths for you the shores a-crowding,
For you they call, the swaying mass, their eager faces turning;
Here Captain! dear father!
This arm beneath your head!
It is some dream that on the deck,
You've fallen cold and dead.
My Captain does not answer, his lips are pale and still;
My father does not feel my arm, he has no pulse nor will;
The ship is anchored safe and sound, its voyage closed and done;
From fearful trip the victor ship comes in with object won;
Exult O shores, and ring O bells!
But I, with mournful tread,
Walk the deck my Captain lies,
Fallen cold and dead.
I hope you've found your peace.
September 14 2008, 04:53:35 UTC 3 years ago
September 14 2008, 04:56:39 UTC 3 years ago
(oh god, the poor kids in class with him now.)
September 14 2008, 05:00:03 UTC 3 years ago
it's still a shock.
we are holding an on-campus vigil come Monday.
I will be sure to light an extra candle for those in this community.
September 14 2008, 05:07:38 UTC 3 years ago
I am deeply relieved to hear this, actually. And also, additionally sad that he had been miserable for a while.
I will be sure to light an extra candle for those in this community.
yes, yes, please do, thank you so much.
September 14 2008, 06:40:45 UTC 3 years ago
September 14 2008, 07:21:10 UTC 3 years ago
I didn't know him. I'm just a fan. I tried to find his office while he still taught at ISU-Bloomington, but I gave up thinking it was stupid and fanboyish.
I don't want to editorialize on suicide, but I (as another depressive, and someone who maybe somewhat can understand what he felt like) am just so saddened by this.
I hope it's ok if I use this icon.
September 14 2008, 14:40:18 UTC 3 years ago
September 14 2008, 16:41:27 UTC 3 years ago
September 14 2008, 17:22:21 UTC 3 years ago
That same summer I came within an ace of planning a trip to drive to Illinois to meet him personally and thank him, even though I wouldn't have known what to say past that. Work changes made me not able to go. I don't know how it would've played out, but I wish I'd gone.
I'm glad you got to learn with him. I've never heard anyone tell an ugly story about him. Thank you for sharing this.
September 15 2008, 01:39:43 UTC 3 years ago
nor i
He seems to have been the kindest of men. I saw him read a few times and spoke with him and corresponded with him also ... he seems to have always taken the time to respond to anyone who wrote. I am so sorry that no one could prevent this.Thanks for the remembrance, it was lovely.